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Your hair's been coated with silicones and sulfates for however long, so it genuinely needs time to purge those out - that frizzy phase is real biology, not a myth. The thing people miss is that you can still wear your hair down during transition if you use a leave-in conditioner heavy enough to clump your waves into shape; it won't look perfect, but "messy waves" reads way better than the disaster-hair panic most folks expect.
The awkward transition phase is basically unavoidable - your hair's been stripped and conditioned a certain way, so it'll look frizzy and weird for like 2-4 weeks while it adjusts. Best move is to lean into protective styles during that window, like braids, buns, or even a good hat if you're out and about, so you're not fighting the texture while it resets. Some people also do a clarifying wash before officially starting to strip out buildup faster, which can shorten how rough the in-between phase looks. Just mentally prep yourself that it's temporary and your curl pattern will settle down once your hair stops being confused about what products it's supposed to work with.
I went through this mess myself and the thing that actually helped was embracing protective styles during the transition. Everyone says the awkward phase is unavoidable, which is true, but you don't have to let it derail your whole life. I did loose braids, buns, and a few claw clips to keep the worst of the frizz contained while my hair was learning how to curl again. It made a huge difference psychologically - I wasn't walking around feeling self-conscious the entire time.
The other practical thing is to be strategic about washing. I went from sulfate shampoos to cowashing and sulfate-free stuff, but I didn't do a cold turkey reset. I eased into it over a couple weeks, which meant my hair wasn't going completely haywire all at once. Also, deep conditioning treatments became my best friend during those first weeks. Your hair's been through a lot if you've been using regular products, so it's thirsty and confused. Load it up with moisture and it'll settle down faster.
One last thing - don't get impatient and abandon it after two weeks thinking it's not working. The real curls need time to establish themselves, especially if your hair's been straight for years. But yeah, you don't have to suffer through looking completely bedraggled the whole time.
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