I've already tried talking to her about this several times, but she says it's work or that she's responding to family messages. Honestly, I feel ignored and I'm starting to question whether she's still interested in being with me. What should I do?
That's a legitimate problem because a relationship needs real attention, not just physical presence. Before questioning her interest, try having a different kind of conversation - not complaining, but specifically talking about how you feel when this happens, and proposing solutions together (like putting the phone away at certain moments). If she keeps ignoring that conversation or won't try any changes, then it's worth questioning whether you two are actually on the same page, because a relationship goes both ways.
Before you assume she's lost interest, ask yourself whether you two have space for conversations where the phone actually stays out of the picture - like dinners without screens, or activities that need your full attention together. The thing is, "trying to talk about this several times" might be coming across as complaining, and people tend to get defensive instead of actually listening. Try proposing specific moments where you both disconnect, not as a speech but as something you want to do together - like, "how about this weekend we both stay off our phones during meals?". If she still can't be present even then, well, that's a different problem that goes beyond the phone.
Have you tried to understand if she feels anxious when she's without her phone, or if it's really just inattention? Because there's a big difference between someone who's addicted to social media and someone who's genuinely stressed about work or family.
The conversation needs to be really specific - it's not about complaining that she's always on her phone, but rather setting concrete moments where you both agree that time is just for the two of you. Like, "let's have dinner without our phones" or "when we're watching a movie, leave your phone in the other room". The thing is, she needs to agree and actually commit to it, otherwise it's just empty talk. If she says she can't disconnect for even two hours, then yeah, that's a warning sign that something's wrong - either she's really overwhelmed with work (and then you two need to talk about that) or she genuinely has her interest somewhere else.
But be careful about one thing: sometimes we confuse "she's on her phone" with "she doesn't care about me", when actually she's anxious, depressed, or so buried in work that she can't switch off. Before you conclude that she's lost interest, ask her directly how she's feeling, if everything's okay, if she's stressed. It could be that her behavior has nothing to do with you, but she's not telling you about it because she thought it was something minor.
Don't start with accusations or ultimatums like "either you put the phone down or we're done" - that just makes things worse. It's also not worth trying to blame social media or her family without first understanding what's actually going on.
What works better is suggesting concrete activities that naturally keep both your hands and minds busy. Not "let's turn off our phones", but like going for a walk somewhere the terrain demands attention, cooking something together that needs coordination, or even playing something that makes you talk. That's when you'll start to feel whether there's real conversation or if the comfort has just disappeared. If she can't be present even when everything is set up for you two to be together, that's a sign something deeper is wrong.
But honestly, before you assume she's lost interest, prepare that conversation like someone who wants to understand, not like someone accusing. "I've been feeling like the phone is pulling us apart and I'd like to find time where we're really just the two of us, no interruptions - because it matters to me" is different from "you're always glued to your phone". One way, she can work with you; the other way, she'll get defensive. And if after you create that space she's still distracted? Then that's a more serious conversation you need to have.
The real problem here is you trying to guess whether she still has interest without concrete data. Instead of interpreting her behavior, pick a specific moment - like a weekend - and suggest doing something together where the phone question doesn't even come up naturally. It's not a heavy conversation, just: "what if we did X without distractions?" If she agrees enthusiastically, great. If she refuses or brings her phone anyway, then you have actual information about how she sees this time with you.
Different from what the others said, I wouldn't start by talking about her phone - that becomes an accusation right away. Instead, start by saying what you need: "I like spending time with you, but I need to feel that you're really present". Make it clear this isn't about condemning the phone, because yes, sometimes work or family demand attention. But there are moments where you can genuinely discourage it.
If after that she keeps ignoring you during those moments you guys agreed on, then you know it's not just a habit - it's a lack of priority. And that's important information for you to decide what to do. It could be that she really has a difficult relationship with the device, or it could be that you're not among the things she wants to give attention to right now. But at least you'll know, instead of just guessing.
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