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The best approach is to let her see it happen herself. When my daughter was her age, I took her to a friend's house that had different religions from ours. Instead of trying to explain everything, I let her see how the girl prayed before meals, how they had different symbols on the wall, and afterward we talked about what she had observed. She quickly understood that nobody was wrong, they just did things differently because that's how they learned.
What matters is getting your daughter to understand that people think differently because they've had different lives. Some grew up with grandparents who told them certain stories, others read specific books, some had friends who influenced them, others come from cultures where certain ideas make a lot of sense. It's not stupidity or meanness - it's simply that everyone has a different starting point. Since she herself will change her mind about things as she grows and learns more, nobody has all the answers.
You can use simple examples: why does her friend think the best weekend is going to the beach while you think it's staying home with a book? Even without religion or politics involved, it already shows that sensible people disagree. From there, it's just a step for her to understand that bigger differences also make sense when you know each person's story.
Each person grows up in a different place, with their own family and experiences, and that shapes what they end up believing. Some learn certain things at home, others at school or with friends, and all of that together makes two people see the world in different ways. It's like when you and your classmate like different foods - it's not wrong, it's just that you've had different stories. You can explain that this is normal and that we learn to respect what others think, even when we don't think the same way.
The most important thing is to show your daughter that disagreeing about beliefs doesn't mean a person is "wrong" or "bad" - it's just that everyone has different sources of truth. Some people trust what science says more, others trust religion, others trust family tradition, others trust what they saw on the internet. None of these sources is automatically right or wrong just by existing; we need to learn to question and verify, but without disrespecting people who think differently.
A cool way to explain it is to use practical examples she'll understand. For instance, if you live in a region where it rains a lot, you and your friends probably believe rain is normal and common - but a kid who grew up in a desert might think it's rare and special. Nobody's lying; each person's experience was different. With bigger beliefs, like politics, religion, or even health, it's exactly the same logic, just multiplied by millions of little experiences we have throughout our lives.
The cool thing about growing up understanding this is that your daughter gets better at dealing with people who think differently without feeling threatened or thinking she needs to convert anyone. She can be curious ("why do you believe that?") without being aggressive, and learns to respect people's reasoning even when she disagrees. That's a skill that's seriously lacking in the world.
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