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I'd say it's less about how often it "should" be and more about what works for both of you. The thing is, you need to be on the same wavelength - if one person wants to see each other every day and the other feels pressured, it gets stressful pretty quick instead of nice. Some people just need their own space and time for other stuff, and that doesn't mean they care any less.
But here's what I think a lot of people miss: in the beginning, it's totally normal to want to see each other constantly and for time together to feel intense. That changes with time though - and that's fine. It's not more romantic to see each other every single day, it's just a different phase. The important part is that you talk about what works for you both and don't force yourselves into a routine that feels fake because you're scared of losing each other.
When I'm freshly in love, I just want to see the other person all the time - that's totally normal and completely okay 😄 There's no fixed rule for it, some couples see each other every day, others just on weekends, depending on how much time each person has and how intensely they want to get to know each other. The important thing is that both of you are on the same page and feel good about it - if one person wants to spend way more time together than the other, that can quickly become a problem.
The main thing is that you both need to be on the same page - if one person constantly wants to spend time together and the other needs more space, it gets stressful pretty quick. Here's a practical tip: talk about it directly instead of guessing what the other person wants. Some people think seeing each other every day proves your feelings are real, others feel smothered by it - it's got nothing to do with how much you love each other, it's just about different needs.
Do you both have similar expectations, or are you already noticing that one of you wants to spend more time together than the other? Honestly, there's no one-size-fits-all answer here - some couples see each other every day, others only meet up during the week after work. But what really helps: realize that the initial phase is always intense and naturally changes over time, without either of you being any less in love. A practical tip I think people often underestimate: intentionally plan breaks or invite friends along when you spend time together - it takes the pressure off having to entertain each other 100% of the time, and that's actually way more relaxed.
Andreas Muller asker
Yeah, I can already tell we have different expectations on that. Thanks for the practical tips!
With me it was like, at the beginning I wanted to see my boyfriend almost every day, but after a couple of weeks I realized that I was getting totally burned out - because I didn't have time for my own stuff anymore. Now I know that things go better when you maybe see each other 3-4 times a week and have some time for yourself in between, so you've got new things to talk about and aren't just cramming everything together. The thing is, everyone's just wired differently - some people need more closeness, others less - and if you're different about that, communication is really important so it doesn't turn into frustration.
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