My partner and I just moved into a new place and we're thinking about making it a shoes-off household. A lot of our friends grew up in families where you keep your shoes on indoors, so I'm worried they'll think it's strange or feel uncomfortable when they come over. Is this becoming more common again or does it still seem awkward to enforce?
it's way more normal now than it used to be, honestly most people get it especially if you just ask them casually at the door instead of making a big announcement. i've been to plenty of places where it's the default and nobody thinks twice about it, plus your floors will stay cleaner which is a solid win.
Not weird at all - honestly plenty of folks do this now, and people adjust way faster than you'd think! I'd say just mention it casually when they arrive ('hey, we're doing shoes off here') rather than making it some formal rule, and have some comfy socks or slippers ready for anyone who feels awkward about it. Most people won't bat an eye, especially if you're relaxed about it yourself!
The premise itself is the tricky part here - it's not really about whether it's weird, but about how you frame it. Your friends will take their cues from your confidence. If you act apologetic or tentative about the rule, they'll feel awkward. If you just... have it as part of your home like it's normal (because for lots of households, it is), they'll adapt instantly.
That said, there's a difference between "we prefer shoes off" and actually enforcing it. The earlier answers are right that casual mention works, but you might avoid sounding like you're policing anyone. "We keep the place shoes-off, there's a rack by the door" is just information. Some guests will respect it completely, a few might ask to keep theirs on if they've got bad feet or whatever, and that's fine too. You don't need to be rigid about it - just set the default and people will follow.
The real trick is actually having somewhere obvious and comfortable for shoes. If there's a decent shoe rack, hooks, or even just a clear spot, people see that and immediately understand this is intentional design, not you being weird. No rack? Then yeah, it suddenly feels like an imposition. So before you worry about social awkwardness, make sure the logistics actually work in your space.
Most cultures outside North America have done shoes-off indoors for generations, so you're tapping into something pretty established - it's not some trendy thing you're inventing. The real pitfall nobody mentioned: don't give people socks with holes in them as an escape route. If someone shows up worried about their feet, just say they can keep socks on or slip their shoes back on if needed - takes the pressure off immediately. A casual "we're keeping it shoes-off, leave them by the door" when they arrive works way better than framing it like you're asking permission, because you're not.
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