I want to take my husband, but the hospital says only one person is allowed. My mom is also asking to be there. How do they usually do it at other hospitals? And could my husband's presence somehow get in the way of the doctors?
Most maternity hospitals really do only allow one person in the delivery room - it's not a whim, it's a safety rule for mom and baby. A husband in the delivery room won't get in the doctors' way if he just stands in the corner and stays out of it, but a lot of women in labor say that having a close person nearby calms them down. If you have to choose between your husband and your mom, husbands are more often the choice - he's more needed during the actual labor, while mom can help before and after. Try to work it out with the maternity hospital about your mom being there at least in the prenatal room, if it doesn't work out for the delivery room itself.
A "taking turns" arrangement often works better than picking once and for all. You can discuss in advance with the hospital whether your husband will be there during contractions and dilation, and your mom can come in just as you're pushing - hospitals usually go for this. Doctors honestly don't care who exactly is standing there, the main thing is that the person doesn't panic and doesn't interfere, but you two will both feel calmer if each of them can be there at their key moment.
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