Honestly, I'm starting to get worried. He refuses to do his homework and he sleeps poorly at night because he scrolls until late. I've tried limiting his access but it creates huge conflicts at home. Are other parents dealing with this too? How did you manage without becoming the bad guys?
Especially if it's affecting his homework and sleep. Tons of parents are dealing with exactly this right now, you're not alone. The thing is, at 14 his brain is still developing and TikTok's algorithms are literally designed to make him addicted - it's not a matter of willpower or discipline, it's very deliberate design. So no, it's not "normal" in the sense of being healthy, even if it happens to a lot of teens.
For the conflict, try approaching it differently than just a flat ban. Instead of telling him "no, it's forbidden," talk to him about the actual problem: homework piling up, sleep messing with his concentration, his mood. A lot of parents say that setting a limit together (like "we decide together that max is 2 hours in the evening") works better than just imposing it. And honestly, technical limits (parental controls, phone out of the bedroom after 9 PM) are less of a punishment than a help - tell him everyone deals with this, that even adults struggle with it.
The other thing that helps: he needs something else to do that actually engages him. TikTok is filling a void. If you can help him find an activity (sport, music, hanging out with friends doing something) where he gets real interactions and little wins, the appeal of the app naturally drops. It takes time but it's more sustainable than just blocking it.
6 hours is clearly too much for a 14-year-old, especially if it's affecting school and sleep. The thing is, limits without explanations just breed rebellion, so you need to try to get him involved in the decision - like ask him what he thinks is reasonable rather than just imposing it on him. A lot of parents deal with this mess, and generally when you turn restrictions into a negotiation (you've got time before homework, then it gets put away) it creates less tension than straight-up blocking. Also check if there's something bothering him - sometimes teens scroll like crazy when they're not handling anxiety or boredom well.
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