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People often assume their discomfort means something's wrong, when really it might just be unfamiliar territory your brain hasn't adjusted to yet. The real pitfall is avoiding the conversation with your partner about what "around" actually means to them - because vague boundaries tend to breed resentment faster than clarity does, even if the ex genuinely isn't a threat.
It's less about normal or weird and more about what the specific situation looks like - are they coparenting, still super close, or just running into each other occasionally? A lot depends on how your partner handles it (like, do they maintain boundaries, are they transparent about contact) and whether you're actually seeing signs of something off or just feeling anxious about the possibility. Most people do feel *some* discomfort with an ex lingering around, but that's pretty manageable once you get a sense of where things actually stand.
Your feelings aren't weird at all - most people feel some version of that. What matters is whether the discomfort comes from genuine red flags (like them being secretive, or the ex still acting couple-ish) or just the normal awkwardness of someone's past being physically present. If it's the latter, that usually fades once you get used to the dynamic and see there's nothing sketchy going on. If it's the former, that's worth a real conversation with your partner about boundaries.
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