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This happens when something new and really captivating appears in your life! In the early stages of a relationship, people really do often get completely absorbed in their significant other, especially if it's their first serious relationship or just really strong chemistry. She's immersed in that feeling of being in love, wants to spend as much time as possible with him, makes plans - it's natural! But whether it's normal from the perspective of healthy relationships - that's another question.
Completely ignoring old friends during the honeymoon phase is a common phenomenon, but it's not ideal. When someone stops maintaining contact altogether, it can point to codependency, loss of boundaries, or simply an inability to balance different areas of life. Friends are anchors that help you stay yourself, they see you from the outside and can notice if something's going wrong in your relationship.
Try writing to her - not with complaints, but from a place of care. Suggest meeting up, even with her boyfriend if needed! Let her know you miss her and that you're always here. If she's a good friend, she'll find that balance over time! Or maybe she just needs a bit more time to realize that friends aren't competitors to her new relationship, but a necessary part of a full life.
I had a friend in a similar situation - she basically disappeared from my life for like two months, and I was even hurt at first 😅 Then I realized it's just a phase when all the emotions and attention go into a new relationship, especially if it's serious. The main thing is not to hold a grudge and give her time to figure things out when the wave dies down.
If she's not responding at all and it drags on for more than a couple months, you can gently let her know that you miss her and would like to hang out sometimes. Usually normal friends eventually find a balance between their relationship and friendship, you just have to wait it out.
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