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Insecurity after years isn't really "normal" in the sense of "that's fine, just leave it" - it's more a sign that something's off. Could be unresolved conflicts, lack of communication, or personal stuff you need to work through yourself. If you're feeling persistently uncomfortable, it's worth having an open conversation with your partner or getting professional help if needed to figure out what's going on. 🤔
A lot of couples go through phases like that, but it's important to tell the difference: are we talking about normal doubts that everyone has sometimes, or a persistent sense of unease? 🤔 The thing with long marriages is often that you don't dare ask the uncomfortable questions because you think "after all these years, that should be settled" - but that's exactly what causes the insecurity to just linger in the air. If that's what you're experiencing, I'd really suggest working through it together (and if needed with professional help) to figure out whether there are concrete reasons for it or if it's more about lack of closeness/understanding. The answer can look pretty different depending on what it is 💙
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